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We've been married for over 30 years and love to tell our amazing story in the form of a message titled "Hedges Around our Hearts." When we speak at couples' events, our message is always filled with practical ways to prevent small problems from becoming big ones. Sometimes, we forget that we are supposed to be friends with our mate so we offer simple steps to help you to fall deeply "in like" with each other!

Our message begins with the story of the death and resurrection of our marriage (in 1980) then we offer six Biblical principles about protecting marriages from external temptations and internal discontent. Our message is also about forgiveness and the possibility of new beginnings for all marriages. We give God the glory for healing our marriage, knowing that He is able to mend broken hearts.

Proverbs 4:23 is our key verse, "Above all else, guard your heart, for it affects everything you do."

WE ARE SPEAKING IN HUNTINGTON BEACH

Please join us at Calvary Chapel Beachside in Huntington Beach, CA as we speak at their Marriage Builders Fellowship.
Our Message: Money Matters in Marriage
When: Friday Night, May 15th at 7:30 pm
Where: 19400 Beach Blvd. Huntington Beach, CA Phone: 714.465.3000
Cost: FREE!
Childcare? YES!
WEB SITE INFO:
We'd love to see you there!

Please join us as we attend a GREAT Marriage Conference!
FamilyLife's Weekend to Remember
At
Irvine Hyatt Regency on Jamboree at 405 Freeway, Irvine,CA
May 1-3
Save $80 per couple by using our group Code: "AndersonOC" when you register

Here's all the info: CLICK HERE

There are other conferences nationwide. Here's the Home page for all Conferences

Workplace affair warning!

As a regular contributor to CBN.com, I recently wrote this piece about guarding our hearts from workplace affairs.

The article begins: "If you work with a Flirty Frank or Tempting Tina, here are some ways you can stand strong against temptation..." CLICK HERE to read the rest of the story.

Listen to my Five-part Radio interview

Airing all this week on "Spread a Little Love Around" is my five-part interview with my dear friends Jene and Evie Wilson of American Family Living. You can listen by going to the the July 14-18 broadcasts and clicking on each day. LISTEN HERE

Article in Trinitarian Magazine from Singapore

This article is excerpted from my book "Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome" and was printed in a magazine from a church in Singapore with about 6,000 members. It's titled HOW TO AFFAIR-PROOF YOUR MARRIAGE: GROWING HEDGES THAT LAST
Read the article

Speaking to women about my marriage

I spoke to a lovely group of 300 women at their retreat. Please watch the video and listen to our amazing story!

Ron's On Dennis Prager's radio show!

Dennis Prager is a nationally known radio host and and he was asking his listeners this question:


"Should You Leave Your Spouse If They Have An Affair?"

Ron called in and got right through to Dennis and here is a transcript of their amazing conversation.
CLICK HERE

Can My Marriage Be Saved?

Announcing a great new book which we are privileged to be a part of!
It's a collection of TRUE stories of real couples whose marriages were saved from a variety of problems, including infidelity, bankruptcy, abuse, mental illness and the loss of a child. It's titled "Can My Marriage Be Saved?" by Mae and Erika Chambers

Our story begins on page 191. Here's the first paragraph:

Ron Anderson found himself in a most uncomfortable position; a situation unlike anything he had imagined he would ever face. No young husband ever daydreams about picking up the phone and speaking to the man his wife has been having an affair with. But Ron found himself doing just that on an emotional afternoon in 1980.

For more information and ordering instructions CLICK HERE

Slippery Steps to Adultery by Nancy C. Anderson

My latest article is about the slippery progression of adultery. We can easily lie to ourselves, until it's too late and then we're ensnared in a sin that can destroy our marriage, health and relationship with God. So please, be aware of the first step and stay FAR away from it!

The article begins: At work and church, in our neighborhoods and during our daily activities we all encounter people of the opposite sex who are attractive. That’s not the problem. Our selfish choices after the attraction create the problem. READ THE ARTICLE

READ THE ARTICLE IN SPANISH (it may take 20 seconds to load-be patient)

Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome in Spanish!

Our book is now in Spanish!

It's called Evite La Tentacion en su Matrimonio. Which means avoiding temptation in your marriage. You can read all about it or order it from AMAZON by clicking HERE

You can also read an excerpt, which has been translated into Spanish, on CBN.com by clicking HERE
(NOTE: it may take a few seconds to load: be patient.)

You can order it in English from AMAZON HERE.

Schedule of Events for 2008

April 12 ~ Nancy teaching at the Orange County Spring Writers’ Day

April 17 ~ Nancy Commentator at Women of the Bible fashion show for Calvary Chapel Pacific Coast in Westminster, CA

April 25-26 ~ Nancy (and her best friend Tonya ) teaching at women’s retreat for Calvary Chapel Vista, CA

May 2 ~ Ron and Nancy at FamilyLife Weekend to Remember Couples' Conference at the Irvine Marriott Hotel. We are Orange County Church Coaches for this group and LOVE it!

May 16 ~ Nancy speaking at Rose Friends’ Church of Yorba Linda, CA MOPS group 10:00 am

May 30-31 ~ Nancy speaking with Tonya Ruiz www.TonyaRuiz.com_ at East Hill Women’s Retreat in Yucaipa, CA

June 7 ~ Nancy speaking with Tonya Ruiz www.tonyaRuiz.com) for Canyon Springs Church of San Diego.

June 24 ~ Ron and Nancy celebrate their 30^th anniversary!

June 21 ~ Ron and Nancy speaking at Wilshire Ave Community Church in Fullerton, CA. This couples’ dinner event is open to the public. Email us for details.

August 2 ~ Ron and Nancy will be speaking on the topic of "Conflict Resolution" for a couples' dinner at Calvary Chapel Pacific Coast in Westminster, CA

August 26 ~ Nancy is speaking at the American Family Living Women’s Tea in Orange, CA. The message is titled, “The Grass Wasn’t Greener” For tickets and other info: click here

September 26-27 ~ Nancy speaking at Women's Retreat for West Community Friends' Church held in Costa Mesa, CA.

October 3 ~ Ron and Nancy giving the opening session at couples' retreat at San Diego Doubletree in San Diego, CA

October 31 ~ Nancy teaching Women's Bible study at Calvary Chapel Pacific Coast in Westminster, CA

November ~ Nancy and Tonya Ruiz speaking at "Season Spectacular" at Visalia Assembly of God in Visalia, CA. Our message? "Real Women, Real Life, Real Faith, Real FUN" info here

New Article in National Magazine

Read Nancy's interview for a news feature in the August 12, 2007 edition of Today's Pentecostal Evangel.

It's titled Not so Quick: Adultery doesn't need to end in divorce.

It begins:
Nancy C. Anderson admits she married her husband, Ron, with the false notion he would make her happy. But soon after Nancy wed at age 22 — fresh out of Bible college — wedded bliss gave way to almost daily mutual criticism, anger and resentment.Be sure to read the first and last sections CLICK HERE

My New Marriage Column @ Positivley Feminine.com

Here's an excerpt from my article "Affair Repair"

"I complained and criticized my way through our first year of marriage. Then Ron retaliated with the “I’m a bad husband because you’re a bad wife” defense. Our anger and resentment grew until they overshadowed our love. That's when I met Jake..."

To read the rest of the article, click here: Positively Feminine
Be sure to browse around the site and scroll down this page to see my bio. and picture:

Radio Interview on Revive Our Heart with Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Here's our picture with Nancy Leigh DeMoss, the host of Revive Our Hearts and the author of dozens of books, including the best-seller, "Lies Women Believe"

Our 4-day radio interview with Nancy aired nationally on 700 stations, but you can listen on-line: Just click here

We loved Nancy as she was a gracious hostess, while we dined at the Macaroni Grill in Little Rock, AR the night before our interview. During our taping, she asked very insightful questions.

THE 700 Club comes to our house!

We were honored to have reporter, Julie Blim, and the film crew of the 700 Club visit our home. Ron and I told them the story of our marriage miracle for an upcoming national television broadcast.

This photo of us, in our back yard, captured the interview. Just in case you are not familiar with this show, here's our story on their website.

If you want to watch our 6 minute clip, just click the triangle on the player (below)

Watch Ron and Nancy on the 700 Club

What Makes Your Spouse Feel Loved?

Wanna know how to get what you want out of your marriage? Give what your mate wants!
Read Nancy's latest article on the newly remodelled Crosswalk.com website.

Here's the opening paragraph:

One day, I asked my husband, Ron, to make a list of things he wished I would do for him: things that would make him feel loved. It was an amazing revelation. I made a wish-list, too, and when we started doing the things on each other's list, our marriage moved from frustrating to fulfilling.

To read more, Click Here

Order Resource Materials

If you'd like to know more about our story, here is a list of resources available:

NANCY'S BOOK: "Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome: How to Grow Affair Proof Hedges Around Your Marriage" by Nancy C. Anderson $12.00
1.To order from Amazon-CLICK HERE
2. To order an autographed copy and pay through secure website, click here: SignedByTheAuthor.com

This book includes Nancy's affair, its causes, consequences and our recovery. Each chapter contains "Things to Think About" and "Things to Do" segments which help the reader relate the material to their own marriage. This is not a "heavy" book, it's easy to read with short chapters with a friendly style. A reader's email said it this way, "I'm not much of a reader, but your book was great...Lots of clear examples and written with heart and humor. It was simple, straightforward and very encouraging!"

Also Available:
Audio CDs: $12.00 each
1. Ron and Nancy's marriage testimony and teaching message "HEDGES for Our Hearts" (50 min)
2. Ron and Nancy's interview on FamilyLife Today with Dennis Rainey (60 min)
3. Nancy's marriage testimony HEDGES message for women (70 min)

DVD $15.00 each
Ron and Nancy's HEDGES message for couples-filmed in front of a live audience (50 min)

ALL PRICES INCLUDE TAX AND SHIPPING
Send check and order info to:
Ron And Nancy Anderson
PO Box 4396
Huntington Beach, CA 92605 Questions? Email us HERE

OR to pay with your CREDIT CARD through PAYPAL,contact us for information and reduced pricing!

Our Latest Speaking Event

We spoke at Calvary Chapel East Anaheim (CA)
for a couples' seminar last month. On Friday night we gave our "HEDGES around our Hearts" message and on Saturday, we talked about financial harmony "Living In Holy Matri-money" aka "Till Debt Do Us Part"

Here's what Dean Riviera, the couples' ministry coordinator had to say, " Ron and Nancy's teaching is Biblical, inspiring, humorous, and very practical. We received only favorable comments from our attendees."

Greener Grass approved for curriculum credit

If you are a licensed counselor, pastor, social worker or chaplain who needs continuing education credits to keep your license current, here's a great way to read my book and get credit for it.

It's listed in the "Adultery" section of Study Credit.com
To see your state's requirements go to the Approved By page

You can buy the book on Amazon, then follow the instrutions on StudyCredit.com to get the credit

Marriage Danger Zones -Crosswalk Article

Does your home have any danger zones? Here's a description of Nancy's article from Crosswalk.com (the largest Christian website in the world)

"If there are lust lures in your home, go on a search and destroy mission. Whether your struggles are with the Internet, television, or other outside temptations, you can build a protective hedge around you marriage and your home. "

TO READ THE ARTICLE: CLICK HERE

Our Daily Bread-Daily Devotional-

You can read our marriage story or listen to the broadcast version HERE

If you don't receive this amazing devotional book, you can order them for a donation (or free if you can't afford them) through This link

We are amazed and grateful that our story reached their readers. (1.5 million in 15 languages)

My Wife's Affair Shattered (and saved) Our Marriage

You've been asking for Ron's point of view, Here it is!

This is the first paragraph of his article on Crosswalk.com:

I searched her eyes for the familiar fire. Seeing none, I thought, who is this woman? My wife of two years had become an instant stranger. She repeated the sentence I could not understand, “I’m moving out.”

To read more, click HERE

Ron and Nancy on FamilyLife Today with Dennis Rainey

Our broadcast on FamilyLife Today aired throughout the country

This photo of us with Dennis Rainey and Bob Lepine was taken after we taped our interviews in the beautiful FamilyLife building in Little Rock, Arkansas.
You can order a CD of our interview HERE
or listen HERE

Read an article by Dennis Rainey with a recommendation/link to my book: The Article is titled Avoiding Emotional Adultery

R-E-S-P-E-C-T find out what it means to me!

Here's my (Nancy) new article about respecting your husband, even if you don't feel like he "deserves" it!
CROSSWALK ARTICLE

Coral Ridge Ministries with Dr. D. James Kennedy

Listen to our marriage story on the national broadcast of Truths that Transform:

Just follow this link and press the "listen" bar under the date: then press "Play" on the Real Player
Affair-Proofing Your Marriage-Part One

Here's part two: Affair Proofing Your Marriage-Part Two

BOOK REVIEWS

My book "Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome" has gone into a THIRD printing! Thank you faithful readers!

We have heard from many pastors who are recommending it to ALL the couples they counsel. One church is calling it "required reading" for their pre-marital classes in hopes of preventing the "greener grass syndrome" from sneaking into new, healthy marriages.

This book is striking a melodious chord with many reviewers as well. Here are two links to reviews written by people we've never met and didn't bribe!

ChristianBookPreviews.com
SpiritRestoration.org

If you'd like to order a copy, just click on the Amazon link under the book photo in the right column of this blog.

It's also available at Walmart.com, Overstock.com, and ChristianBook.com or you can get an autographed copy through the Contact page of our web site http://www.ronandnancyanderson.com/
Most Christian bookstores have it in stock or will order it from the publisher (Kregel)

News Article and Speaking Review

The Huntington Beach Independent recently ran a story about our "Picnic in the Park" speaking engagement in Central Park. Michele Marr wrote the favorable piece. To see more photos, scroll down to the August 28th entry.

The article begins...
"Two years after Ron Anderson got married, he discovered he was losing his wife to another man. "That guy was stealing my wife [by] doing what I should have been doing." .....

If you' d like to read the whole article email us (address on right column) and we'll send it to you.

ARTICLE IN CHRISTIAN WOMEN TODAY

IF YOU'D LIKE TO READ NANCY'S LEAD ARTICLE IN THE SEPTEMBER EDITION OF CHRISTIAN WOMEN TODAY,

CLICK HERE "Affair Repair"

GUARD YOUR HEART AT WORK

HERE IS NANCY'S LATEST ARTICLE FROM CROSSWALK.COM

Safeguard Against Workplace Temptation

"Coworkers often are required to work on projects or solve problems together, and the resulting closeness can build teamwork — but it can also build a feeling of intimacy. If you work with a Flirty Frank or Tempting Tina, there are some ways you can stand strong against temptation......"

READ MORE

MARRIAGE IS A PICNIC IN THE PARK

We had such fun at Calvary Chapel Beachside's Couples Night Out. The couples' leaders, Dan and Jan, provided a lovely picnic meal. Then each couple was encouraged to find a secluded spot to dine and discuss some of the questions from our book (Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome).

We all came back to hear the beautiful worship music and then we spoke candidly about our disasterous marriage and the Lord's healing power. We discussed the six HEDGES that protect our relationships and gave the Biblical references for each. After we spoke, Pastor Mike Harris gave a call for prayer and many couples responded.

It was a wonderful night, rich in God's beauty, through nature and His word.

These photos were taken by our dear friend, Joel Wingo

AUGUST ARTICLE ON CROSSWALK

I (Nancy) write a monthly marriage article for Crosswalk.com (The World's largest Christian website)
Here's how the August installment starts:

"Is Your Marriage Malnourished?

In this fast-food era of pizza delivery and speedy drive-through meals, it’s easy to forgo a sit-down "real silverware" dinner. We often sacrifice nutrition for convenience.

Unfortunately, some of us have transferred this fast-food lifestyle to our marriages."

To read more click here: Crosswalk.com

Couples' Ministry

We just returned from a fun trip to Temecula, Ca where we spoke to the couples’ group at Calvary Chapel Bible Fellowship. Pastor Clark Van Wick and his lovely wife Sally were warm and welcoming and so were the other couples. We spoke on the topic of guarding our hearts and planting HEDGES of protection around our marriage.

We told the story of our marriage’s death and resurrection and then gave practical, Biblical ways to protect our hearts from frustrations and temptations. They were a perfect audience because they laughed at our funny stories and cried at the “heavy” ones. We love to speak at couples’ events and we'd be honored if you would consider us for your next banquet, retreat, or regular couples’ Bible study. Please contact us for more info: Contact Ron and Nancy

Marriage Articles

Crosswalk.com is the largest Christian website in the world! It has all sorts of wonderful resources about Family, Marriage, News, and Parenting. It also has an easy to use Biblical reference section and a daily devotional.

I (Nancy) have been writing for Crosswalk for several months and this month's marriage article has links to all my other articles, so it's a great way to read them all!


Click here to read: Warning Signs of Infidelity

WORLD MAGAZINE ARTICLE

Our marriage story and photo are featured in the June 18, 2005 issue of WORLD Magazine.

The story is called "Secret Sin" and it's about the alarming rise in Christian divorce rates and the growing problem of women's infidelity.

You can read the article in the print edition, which is now available at most Christian Bookstores,
or click on this link to WorldMag.com

http://www.worldmag.com/subscriber/displayarticle.cfm?id=10742

This photo was taken right before we went on the 100 Huntley Street show. Cute, hu? 

Our appearance on 100 Huntley Street

In February, we flew to Toronto to appear on this national Canadian TV show.

Our segment was about 20 minutes long and it went by very fast. Ron started to cry when he talked about God's mercy and forgiveness and I started to cry when I talked about my father. But it was not a sad show, we laughed too and talked openly about how awful our marriage was and how good it is now.

We took a side trip to Niagara Falls and it was COLD, but beautiful!

EV Free Fullerton--Couples in Recovery

We often speak to married or engaged couples, most of whom have not had affairs, but this week was different.

On Wednesday, we talked to a group of couples at EV Free Church, who've all had affairs.
The class is taught by Dave Carder, the author of TORN ASUNDER, and he asked us to share our testimony.

These wounded people are just beginning to rebuild their marriages and it was a privilege for us to encourage them. We told them the short version of our story and tried to give them hope for their own futures. Some of them were nodding, some were crying, and one man had his back toward us, with his arms folded, facing the door. I don't think he wanted to hear our message. That's the hard thing about speaking to people: we can't make them listen, we can't make them change. If they don't want their marriage to work, it won't. There has to be an internal decision--a desire--a commitment to stay. Without that, as soon as it gets difficult (and it will) they give up, walk away.

We will continue to pray for them and hope that our story gave them the encouragement they needed. We hope they begin to see the healing that can be theirs --if they choose it.